"The curious paradox is what I accept myself, then I can change" ~Carl Rogers
Accepting yourself and at the same time trying to change is what's called a dialectic - two things that are complete opposites and yet both are true. As she developed Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Marsha Linehan learned that seeking to change was an actual block to producing meaningful, life affirming change. She noticed that people commonly thought "if I need to change, then there must be something wrong with me." The reality is that we all can use a little positive change, but the only way to get there is to first accept reality as it is and accept who we are at this very moment.